Random Thoughts

 In my view, it is a parents responsibility to raise well rounded, responsible, courteous, open minded, independent, caring individuals to whom we will leave the future. We ought to give them roots, responsibilities, discipline, guidance, a good foundation, love and laughter.

  We ought to respect what our children chose to do with their lives, accepting them for who they are,  giving emotional support for who they are. We further ought to accept their chosen fields of employment,  even if these choices make us as parents uncomfortable when they are placed in dangerous situations for it is their life. A life they are living, it is not ours.

  My personal experience with raising children has been one of the biggest blessings in my life. No doubt mistakes have been made. I found that when I own my mistakes and take responsibility for them, it created a relationship filled with respect and love.


 I have encouraged my sons to be themselves even if it is against the trends of the current world. My sons owe me nothing. I chose to bring them into this world. I have no hidden nor unreasonable expectations. They know only thing I expect them to do, is to respect my wishes when my time comes. My sons and husband know exactly what those wishes are.

 In a nutshell, I expect my sons to go out and live their lives,  beholden only to their wife and children. Well, I guess to their employer too.

When you repeatedly discount the feelings of others that you claim to love and care about.
When you show no respect for those same people, does it really surprise you that they do not take time out of their day for you.
 
 If you ask me, it shouldn't.

 For myself personally, I have set aside my personal feelings for many a year, taken a lot of emotional hits, some intended, some not, to keep the peace. I have more or less forced the members of this household to attend necessary and important functions. We have done our best. However, we have gotten flack for not attending some functions. Having some knowledge of the function would have helped, some notice, maybe more than 3 days or the day of, might have helped, or maybe not mentioning that reservations had been made prior to your invite which anticipated a "no" response.
 For myself, the misinterpretation, the resulting pain was brushed under the rug. I forgive you but I haven't forgotten. I can only speak for myself.
  I must admit, that now I can no longer convince the members of my household to attend any functions. I am tired of trying.
  I am done with being in the middle of trying to keep this together, I am done being your personal door mat, I am done with being blamed for everything.
 Should you still feel the need to blame someone, try looking at how you have treated the ones you "so called " love and care about.

 I have been told to raise above and be the stronger person. Honestly, I have been doing that for years, all it has gotten me in this situation is more heart ache, more headaches and more emotional stress.

 Enough already!